taking a LEAP of FAITH

I would quote my Angel Snippets blog for this: "Life has a way of surprising you without really surprising you."

If the weekend of Earth was something short of magical what with the wedding of the century happening (and me missing out on the kiss at the balcony because I was in the workshop of my life.).... and also with the news that Osama died.... (a reason for mature reflection and some repose....)... my weekend was just beginning to unfold.......

It was as if some unmistakable divine force weaved it's awesome power and managed to pull me in with the flow and join POSIBLE+ LEAP 48.

I was reluctant during the last minute. I reserved my place last January but my fears got ahead of me and I didn't submit to the pre-coaching. But, in the end with pre-coaching or not, a little nudge from the Universe made me LEAP.

What made me join?

In the "embrazzo" of the FLEX Teens where my brother joined, the parents of teenagers convened (whom we really know well ganged up on me and my mom). They were saying: "Join LEAP!!! so that we are together... so that Davao will have a lot of representative."

Say: "Bye, Bye to your brain!" they would say over and over again. But, what struck me was.... Tito Leo Avila's question: "Look, we all have a vision and dream for Davao, right?"

And my heart jumped and it actually brought tears to my eyes. Yes, I have dreams for Davao... and here I am presented with an opportunity to make my life better and I am hesitating?

and so... I said: "yes". But, with a doubt... well.. mhmm not exactly that.. I was SCARED!!!!

with all my fabulous encouragement, my uplifting words..... i was merely projecting to my inner self.... because I AM SCARED! I have heart loaded with fears..... oh dear me!

Also.. the recent weekend made me realize a lot of things.... yes, I know a lot.... yes, I've read about things... and somehow with all the trainings I've had... I've become jaded. It's like: "yeah, yeah.... I know all of that."

But, then the weekend made me confront my inner fears.... and also my blockages. I was withholding love ... therefore I can't give anyone that yet.

I thought I have gone through the process of forgiveness already... but my heart still grieves. I just denied the whole thing.... oh dear... I made a shortcut to the game.. and now the game is trying to shortcut me. So... instead from now on.... I'm gonna be true to the game! Be more honest with how I am feeling... and be more in touch with myself....

But, now I found a community where I can be safe.... where the fear of being judged is non-existent.... where I can be myself... to my buddy Ate Claire, my Bizu council, my coaches (coach Bong and Coach Jic) and the rest of the coaches, to my POSIBLE+LEAP 48 batchmates... let's all do this together and be 100%!!

with love and blessings... to the
5 Facilitators + 1 Headcoach + 13 Coaches + 100+OCs + 57 New Leapers = ♥ ♥ ♥ POSIBLE+LEAP48 - reposted from Head Coach Charette! ;)

Note: I posted the picture of our class shirt which made a ruckus over at Facebook and Twitter. Everyone wanted to buy it because it's actually fab! (I got 2! will be adding more colors to my collection. Mwahahahaha). Here's a story from Head Coach Charette behind the success of these shirts... Effective shirt selling.

Stop and Surrender

Now, I stopped trying to control events, and just trust and have faith that everything will fall into a natural order, one that works.

you know the popular saying:


(via heymrblue)

so... yeah. and that the good thing about things falling apart, is that you can choose to pick up which pieces you want to have in your life.

I'm just resting while a power much greater than me takes over. :) (thinking about rest, makes me want to go have a massage!!!! i BADLY NEED ONE! maybe mamaya before i go to sleep.)

but, but, i have to get back on track. I have a "challenge", I'm working out on..... some goal.. which I will reveal as soon as I ACHIEVE it. it's in my PRIORITY FOLDER.

The recent uhmmm experience I had, I mentioned was terrible, right? It almost shattered a belief, that I keep holding on to... but, then... my angels are always around to keep me back on track. I have always believed that you need not a lot of pain and suffering to grow. Because, Jesus said: "It is finished". But, of course... you have a choice to go through all that. And like many gurus would say: "There are many paths to the mountain top."

I've always believed that Love operates on a win-mode. Being successful in life need not have a lot of negative tension involved, and that we don't really have to struggle all the time.

So... I surrender and just love. :) It's like I'm melting into another world. Some may call it a fantasy, but sometimes the truth can seem like a fantasy. Of course, I still have a feet on both worlds. And someone taught me how to take the rose-colored glasses off, if necessary. And, I did.

They say the world changes, when we change. It reflects back to us what we have been giving all along. It softens when we soften. It opens when we open our hearts.

It's this moment when LOVE matters more than anything. Not psychology, not neurosis. Just Love. That warm feeling, that despite all those broken promises, shattered dreams, half truths, hostility, you found a way to stop fighting the world... and let things be.

There'd be moments I may forget, but that's part of our journey....

*spreads the love to y`all*

peace IN! (haha. trying to be cool, eh?)

broken promises

Today, marks one of the hardest choices to make in my life. I think if I was Venus Raj, answering the "major major" question. (feeling ko Ms. Universe eh ano?) This one would be my answer. Although, I'd buckle up with the answer because I was never the smart "talker", I stutter when my emotions are involved. I swear, if I don't do something about this, I will go join the Toast Masters.

I can't really explain everything that happened. Some things will remain private. Some things will remain in my "journal" and the rest might as well be left unwritten. All I can say, that everything was odd.

So many things were left unsaid for my emotions got the better of me. But, I guess that doesn't matter now. All I know, it was good while it lasted and everything was just perfect even though the "end" was abrupt and horrible.

I kind of hated myself for making promises I couldn't keep. I wanted to keep it, but I'm too scared to take it. Yes, my dear angels, I'm not ready for love it seems. All along, I thought I was, but I was uninitiated. I lack the emotional skills to hold on to the magic when the storm came.

I can't tell myself that it wasn't real for me. For, I would just be lying to myself. But, it was also hard to tell, because there were lies involved at the beginning. The facts may have been all a lie, but there was a moment, that tiny spark, that glimmer, that love visited. And that I will cherish. It will be hard to forget the songs. It's filled with bittersweet memories and broken promises.

I felt the sadness, and I was gullible enough that the good intentions I have, backfired. I got scared with the domino effect. Fear got ahead of me. And so, I had to step out from the "fantasy" we made.

It was grim and excruciating. There's a certain hardness that developed in my soul. And I hope the tears will take them away. Tears for the humiliating failure I made.

I don't even know why I felt the need to post this. Maybe, I just want to commemorate this day, and also the past three days, for this will mark another chapter of my life.

To some this can be a lesson, and for awhile I thought it was just that. But, going deeper, this was a soulful experience, one that I have probably asked, and I couldn't say I came out victorious.

But, I asked for this. I live a sheltered life. I live with my books. I do meet people from all walks of life from the nature of business that I am in, and lately I have been disconnected from them. I felt I was stagnating. And in a sense, I created this experience, to keep me from stagnating.

Oh my, what a ride, this was.

Yesterday, while I was in my room walking around, beseeching my guides to help me, I saw a praying mantis on top of my bed. I was startled at first, because I haven't seen one for years.

and I knew there was some sort of a reason why it appeared at that moment. And so, I searched online for the meaning and here's what I got:

The mantis comes to us when we need peace, quiet and calm in our lives. Usually the mantis makes an appearance when we've flooded our lives with so much business, activity, or chaos that we can no longer hear the still small voice within us because of the external din we've created.

A quick-list of praying mantis symbolism:

• Stillness
• Awareness
• Creativity
• Patience
• Mindful
• Calm
• Balance
• Intuition

This is a message to us to contemplate and be sure our minds and souls all agree together about the choices we are making in our lives.

Overwhelmingly in most cultures the mantis is a symbol of stillness. As such, she is an ambassador from the animal kingdom giving testimony to the benefits of meditation, and calming our minds.

An appearance from the mantis is a message to be still, go within, meditate, get quite and reach a place of calm. It may also a sign for you to be more mindful of the choices you are making and confirm that these choices are congruent.

Source: Animal Symbolism

I can't say I am fine. I am still grieving.

This is a road I have to take on my own....

Loving 2009

It was a magical 2008. I spent my time celebrating ME... Every moment, I have chosen to always feel wonderful with ME.

and with that... I thank God - to whom I felt I have grown closer this year because I spent more time listening with the voice deep within me. A God... I see... who is very loving and was always around when I felt like there's nobody I feel safe to talk too. Whenever, I go crazy or distressed over things that often confuses me... He was always around like a light in the dark.. piercing my heart with love and melting all the worries away. To A God, a friend and a lover. Yes, a lover. My heart's bursting from all the love I never thought was possible. Yes, God. You sure showed me it's possible to experience an enchanted love. I thought, it happens to a select few only.... but you gave me a chance to experience it too - and in this world. And I know this year... I am experiencing it fully. 2008 was just the beginning.

I thank all the people who were endlessly patient with me, and who loved me unconditionally. THANK YOU, dear friends - this goes to everybody who visits my blog.... and to all those who supported me*murag Oscar's awardee*.. (you bring joy whenever I see messages from you guys). Thank you. Thank you. My endless gratitude to you guys for just BEING THERE.

2008 was a magical year. I felt sparks and saw glitters by the middle of the year. By, November another angel arrived... and another angel *that makes 2* who was a perfect gift for us.

The second angel brought everybody closer and I found what I have always yearned for - "friends.sisters who would listen to everything about me... with no judgment". Our relationship brought us to that point and I feel soooo safe with them.


This year, is LOVING 2009. If it was ME last year... I am choosing to have a WE this year. Spent a lot of time meditating about this.... although I need more time to meditate on the WE part. Haha. Ok. I know you might be lost in this post now...

but here's my LOVING 2009:

This year..... I choose to LIVE LIFE LOVINGLY.
I choose to be more AUTHENTIC to everybody.
I choose to say what is really from my HEART
I choose to Live with intention.
I choose to travel more and explore.

This year I choose to dedicate myself and every moment to my PURPOSE
I choose to support people in their journey back to LOVE.
I choose to support people around me in their WELL-BEING.
I choose to practice Wellness.

This year... I choose to bring out the best in other people.
I choose to accept people as they are and love them unconditionally.
I choose to appreciate my FRIENDS.
I choose to enjoy my journey with the people around me.

This year I choose to allow myself feel what I have deprived myself all along
I choose to share my LIFE and JUST BE with someone I love.
I choose to celebrate that experience.
I choose to create loving memories plus with magic.

This year I choose to always do WHAT I LOVE.
I choose to laugh and be care-free.
I choose to treat myself with respect.
I choose to dance in the rain... and fly like an eagle.
I choose to enjoy and be responsible for my FREEDOM.

This year I am choosing things with no regrets
I choose to nurture my mind with loving thoughts.
I choose to LIVE the MIRACLE.
I choose to trust the process called LIFE.

Because I know I am a magnificent being who can dance on any path......

May this Loving 2009 be yours as well.... I share this to everyone. =)

Love you guys!

To A Friend

To our Friend (Emel)

I will miss...
I always cherished
I will always remember..

all those days when we were in high school...
liking the same band....
the same song...
the same TV Shows...
the same anime (and even buying those cards at the market... just to save and share it with each other).
or even liking the same person in a band or in real life....
the same habit (chatting)...


We've been through a lot... yes...

But I guess... something happened... not all of us knew deep within...
Whatever you do...

I wish you to be at peace... wherever you are.

You are Loved.

T_T

Five(5) Natural Emotions - Finale

You've read and totally come to understand the Five Natural Emotions I have shared from a book I've read. But these things are not new, everyone knows this. We just need a lil reminder now and then - (from your responses/comments I have come to realize many things).

We've all come to realize in short that these natural emotions when repressed produces unnatural emotions. Any emotion that causes harm to other people or anything that might bring you harm is unnatural. Most natural emotions have been repressed, we have been taught to repress them.

But, we must all remember that these natural emotions are our friends, our tools, the gifts with which to shape our experience. We should embrace them, and learn how to use them to our advantage without hurting anyone along the way.

Yet, all human actions comes down to two(2) emotions. All human actions are based or motivated at their deepest level by two emotions - love and fear.

All human actions creeds, bleeds into two key concerns - LOVE and FEAR.

The two are the opposite ends of this world of relativity. Every human thought and action, is based in either love or fear. All decisions affecting education, poverty, politics, nations, war, peace, terrorism, and environment, - all choices involving every subject in this world - every single choice we make arises either out of love or fear.

Let us learn how to make choices using love and not of fear. For fear-based actions causes unnatural reactions while love-based actions causes natural responses - and oh joy!.

I want to elaborate more... but I guess I'm running out of words to fully explain everything that's inside. But I know, somehow you're getting what I'm trying to say. :)

To all GRADUATES: HAPPY GRADUATION!! (may be a bit too late, but hey better late than never)

Blessed Lenten Season.... and ENJOY THE REST OF THE SUMMER!

Five(5) Natural Emotions - Love

Suggested Reading: Grief ,Anger, Envy, and Fear.

Credits/Ideas: CWG, and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross, Wikipedia

I saved the best for last!

LOVE.

The BEST NATURAL EMOTION WE HAVE.

When you were allowed to express and receive it, without conditions or limitations, without embarrasement or inhibition, it does not REQUIRE anything more. When as a child you were made to believe that having love is not okay, that to express it is wrong - you will have a very difficult time dealing with love when you grow up.

Yet LOVE which has been conditioned, limited, controlled, manipulated, and withheld becomes unnatural. Love repressed becomes possesiveness a very unnatural emotion.

Love is meant to be UNLIMITED, FREE and ETERNAL. True love means no "obligations" for it is always FREE... an obligation cannot exist in the space of love. See to it, that your decision of love is not a PROMISE made once but as a CHOICE made over and over... and resentment will never come.

Love should be UNCONDITIONAL.

This would mean loving everyone regardless of what they believe in, regardless of what they do. You give love freely.... no-matter-what.

If we deny love that is given to us, if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss, then our lives will be empty, our loss greater. - Author Unknown

You do not forsake and ignore someone because he/she have wronged you.... When you say "I LOVE YOU", fret not if you will not hear it back. And if you hear it back, DO NOT WORRY THAT YOU WOULD LOSE IT.

When you TRULY LOVE.... it is FOREVER. It never goes away... nor does it fades... you simply LOVE. Love is the energy that allows us to EXPAND, to OPEN UP, to SHARE, to CARE, and to HEAL.

This UNCONDITIONAL LOVE understands.... This UNCONDITIONAL LOVE conquers everything.

This love recognizes the beauty of everything.. This is the natural expression and response we have that REQUIRES NOTHING and DOES NOT EXPECT ANY OUTCOME.

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. - Buddha

But remember before you can love the people around you... you must learn to LOVE YOURSELF. Because, how can you say you love other people if you do not even love yourself ? It is like helping someone who does not want to be help himself/herself in the first place anyway.

Love yourself... then love other people unconditionally. :)

It is not how much you do, but how much Love you put into the doing that matters. - Mother Teresa

Do things with love. Cook with love, clean with love, and serve with love.

LOVING is the HIGHEST VALUE. :)

If you do everything with love..... you would overlook all the imperfections and ugliness... instead you would see the perfection and beauty of everything.

and I will let all the great people talk about love.....

If we make our goal to live a life of compassion and unconditional love, then the world will indeed become a garden where all kinds
of flowers can bloom and grow.

- Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Late Author of On Death and Dying

As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product. - Sara Paddison, Hidden Power of the Heart

Our true identity is to love without fear and insecurity. Our higher potential finds us when we set our course in that direction. The power of love and compassion transforms insecurity. - Doc Childre

Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much perfoms much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well. -Vincent Van Gogh

I have never met a person whose greatest need was anything other than real, unconditional love. You can find it in a simple act of kindness toward someone who needs help. There is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame of that heats our soul, energizes our spirit and supplies passion to our lives. It is our connection to God and to each other. - Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Much has been said about LOVE already.... and of course we all have different experiences and HAVE SOOO MUCH to share about this. (even me.. I have soo much in my mind and heart that I want to impart but then... I guess not now.)

Five(5) Natural Emotions - Fear

Please read the previous Grief , Anger and Envy posts.

Next up is Fear.

Credits/Ideas: CWG and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross

Fear is a natural emotion. All babies are born with only two fears: one, is the fear of falling, and the other one is the fear of loud noises.

The rest of the fears are LEARNED responses from ENVIRONMENT or taught by parents (like the fear of ghosts and etc... )

The purpose of this "natural fear" is to give us CAUTION. Caution in whatever we are doing. That whatever we do there are consequences. This is the practice of "caution". This a tool that helps keep our body alive.

Fear is a defensive advantage. Fear serves like a motivation to escape to safety.

Just like the other three emotions I have so far mentioned, kids who were not allowed to express what they fear would have a hard time dealing with it. Kids who were allowed to express their fears will have a healthy outlook towards fear.

We all need fear because it gets our adrenaline going... but too much fear paralyzes us like a rabbit caught in a car's headlights.

"Fear protects us from danger. If people do not feel fear, they are a danger to themselves" - Ritva Laaksonen, a neuropsychologist and psychotherapist at the KL Institute, a psychotherapy training centre

Fear that is continually repressed and is excessive becomes PANIC.. and panic is a very unnatural emotion.

Panic have caused other people to kill other people. Wars have started because of this. Decisions have been made because of this. Nations have fallen as well because of Panic.

The solution for excessive fear is to keep your mind busy with what has to be done and not to what might happen.

BE REMINDED: That too much fear is not good, and living in fear would not help you live the life the way you want it to be. Fear is just this instant or innate reaction we have that advices and reminds us to be cautious in our actions and be aware with it's consequences.

You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith. ~Mary Manin Morrissey

Never allow your fear to grow bigger. It blocks everything, and might motivate you to take actions that would harm you. :)

Quotes about Fear:

Fear is the father of courage and the mother of safety. ~Henry H. Tweedy

To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another. ~Katherine Paterson, Jacob Have I Loved

There are times when fear is good. It must keep its watchful place at the heart's controls. ~Aeschylus

Five(5) Natural Emotions - Envy

Suggested reading: Grief and Anger
You read the title right. Envy is the third natural emotion.

Credits/Ideas: CWG, and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross, Wikipedia

Oh puhleaseee... read everything in context.

Natural envy is the feeling of desire to have something that someone has. This is when you desire to be like someone, or have something that a certain person has. This is like a five-year-old kid wishing he could ride the bike like his brother could or a teenager wanting to drive a car.

This is the natural emotion that makes you want to do it again; to try harder; to continue striving until you get what you want. It is very healthy to be envious, and it is just natural. It is human nature.

Just like grief and anger when you are taught as a child that it is ok to be envious in a healthy way, and you were allowed to express it, in your adult life, it is easy to move quickly from envy and you will have a healthy attitude towards it. But, if you were taught as a child that envy is not okay, and it is wrong to experience or express it, you will have a hard time dealing with envy when you grow old.

I know, while reading this you might be thinking... "What? Envy ? A natural emotion?". "It is just right to express it? and then teach the children to be envious?"

According to Schoeck from his book Envy: A Theory of Social Behaviour: "Envy is not wholly negative."

It is what drives us to do more, and it is just like admiring what others have achieved and wanting to achieve it yourself as well.

Basically, we all do feel envious about something one way or another. Show me a person who never wished to have something the other person has. Have you ever wished to be just like the actor/actress you do so admire? Have you ever wished to do something what other people have done like bungee jumping or go sky diving ?

Too much ENVY and ENVY repressed would lead to JEALOUSY. Jealousy is a veryyyy UNNATURAL emotion.

People have killed other people (like lovers in conflict) because of jealousy. Wars have started (just like Helen of Troy) because of this.

I think Envy is one of the 7 deadly sins in the Catholic tradition.

But, I hope you don't get me wrong here.. what I am talking about is the positive side of "envy". The "enough" envy that would drive you to where you want to be, but not the excess which would lead to jealousy. ( It's all too tricky, and I guess I can't express it wholly to you just here) I am talking about the envy that leads you or motivates you to be a better person and not cause other people harm. I hope we are clear on that.

Envy consists in seeing things never in themselves, but only in their relations. If you desire glory, you may envy Napoleon, but Napoleon envied Caesar, Caesar envied Alexander, and Alexander, I daresay, envied Hercules, who never existed. - Bertrand Russell

21 comments from haloscan:

hi. thanks for the comment on "murder,she wrote." nope, it isn't a book. but if i were to be given a chance, i'll make an ebook out of my entries, then later publish it on paper. that'd be all on mr. lisondra's wonderful artistic layouts. the title is same with a particular tv series from the time i was born til.. er.. forgot. hehe. nwei, thanks again. still on hiatus lately. and nostalgic as well, my Ryan's with me kc. hehe. chege. kendi | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 10:39 am | #

haha I think sis u're in the mood to post the 7 sins heehee.. maganda yan sis, nakaka inspired mga post you.. sobra.. d pa pala kita nalilink, so if you don't mind, I will link you.. mwah! LHYZ | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 11:18 am | #

oh yes,envy,a natural emotion...though i dont teach my children to be envios too much..maliit na bagay,yes,ok lang yun..gaya nang "kainggit ang buhok nya","ganda ng height nya",at least may compliment sa ibang tao,pero pag malaking bagay na,esp financially status,theirs or others,makakarinig na sila ng critic sa akin. at ayokong nag ku compare sila sa iba.. ghee | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 11:36 am | #

Ate Ghee: Yup...too much envy leads to jealousy... and un ung di maganda... tina | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 11:39 am | #

this is a good post striving to have wat others has would be good. envying? yes but remember too much is not good. and it will always leads to jealousy. eerrr...then it will make them do soemthing that is not good! admiring and desiring watever others has would be a good sign for us to have the determination of getting wat we wanted. again, not too much! hmm..basta i get it. i just cant really tell how.hehe! take care always..mwahugs ychel | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 4:39 pm | #

True, true! Oh Tina. You're such a wise woman. I feel better. (I think) Hehe. And I thank God we're friends. bam | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 5:24 pm | #

wow. inspirational talk. Yea. i guess theres also a positve side of envy. very well said. i love your posts. dropping by sis. lea | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 10:07 pm | #

ggrrrr nabura ang first comment ko anyhow ganda ate ng post mo, nakakarelate ang mga nagbabasa.. and tama ung sa envy and jealousy... minsan kasi nararanasan ko din yan.. ingat ka lagi ate.. have a great week! nicole | Homepage | 03.27.07 - 10:35 pm | #

tina i envy you kasi laging may matutunan sa mga post mo. dahil inexplain mo naman kung ano ibig mo sabihin sa envy, muhang di naman talaga pareo dun sa envy na tinutukoy ng church. iskoo | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 1:32 am | #

nice read.. oo nga naman.. i didnt realize that envy is the third natural emotion.. that got me into thinking also.. Im not the jealous type but maybe unknowingly I am.. hehe antonette | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 1:56 am | #

Wow sis your post is really inspiring.I agree. . Ako din envy ako sa tao. I agree na ang envy nagdadala sa atin sa tagumpay. Thanks for this. Sherica | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 8:29 am | #

Never thought about envy that way! Sidney | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 10:28 am | #

Envy and jealousy can be taken into positively. Very nice insights! dimaks | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 9:49 pm | #

aww.. i really like this entry of yours.i certainly agree with this. anyway, thanks for asharing this with us,. take care! Sandra | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 10:23 pm | #

You're right jealousy is the green eyed monster, but envy is a natural emotion, that a mature individual should have good control over. Happy belated Birthday to your Mom! She and Nermal have almost the same day hehe Angelo | Homepage | 03.28.07 - 10:39 pm | #

hay nako.i hate this feeling. i feel this and it sucks.. huhu lalaine | Homepage | 03.29.07 - 2:08 am | #

A little envy is healthy, but when taken too far it becomes dangerous. Baka pumatay pa ng tao dahil sa inggit. Ay sus. Mari | Homepage | 03.29.07 - 3:23 am | #

everything that we feel is normal... they just turn bad in excess. monMon | Homepage | 03.29.07 - 4:15 am | #

i see so talagang natural lng na mainggit ?? sabagay it is also one of the reasons why yung ibang tao sbrang nagpupursue sa dreams nila dahil may kinaiinggitan cla and gus2 nila matulad dun.... pwede rin po bang baliktad nauuna yung jealousy bago yung envy??? len | Homepage | 03.29.07 - 4:27 am | #

inggitera pa naman ako.. nyahahha.. pero sa tingin ko healthy pa naman yung sakin.. hehhehe.. joanna | Homepage | 03.29.07 - 8:55 am | #

I always tell that to my kids, instead of being envious to anybody or for anything, gawin na lang nila itong inspiration . ann | Homepage | 03.30.07 - 1:22 am |

Five(5) Natural Emotions - Anger

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM!!! LOVE YOU!!!! - March 26, 2007

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Before you read this: Read the 1st Grief.

The second(2nd) natural emotion is - Anger.

Yes, anger is a natural emotion.

Anger does not have to be abusive, and it should never be damaging to one another. This is a natural response whenever you do not like something, like reading articles that you find about racism or someone being abused. It is when you feel upset about someone to whom you felt you've been wronged.

When as a child you have been taught to express anger, when you grow up you experience a very healthy attitude towards anger and then you move through your anger very quickly.

When as a child you have been taught that it is wrong to be angry, it is not okay - it is wrong to express it, and you should not even experience it - when you grow up you will have a difficult time to move from your anger.

Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words. -Dr. Joyce Brothers.

Anger that is continually repressed becomes RAGE. Rage is an unnatural emotion.

People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing. ~Will Rogers

Because of rage many people have killed other people, many people brought about damage to other people and wars have started because of this.

Credits/Ideas: CWG, and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross, Wikipedia

There are actually different levels of anger.

The level or type of anger I'm talking about is the one that you express right out that you are angry and then get over it quickly. This type of anger does not last long. This anger I'm talking about is the natural emotion you feel, the instant response you have over something you do not like.

He who angers you conquers you. ~Elizabeth Kenny

It's also different when you are "being angry over someone for so long" or resentment. Like whenever you see that person you suddenly have the urge to "harm" or even wish him/her "harm". Now, that's not natural. It just seems like that person has control over you.

Just want to make it clear that there are certain levels of anger. One type or level of anger that you feel instantly and then get over it quickly by expressing it without doing any harm to another person. Another anger is the one that boils deep inside causing you or might cause you to harm another person and thus harm and bring about a very unnatural feeling which might lead to rage.

What should I do?

Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten. -Buddha

Go express what you feel in a good way. Remember, you can always approach anger in two different ways. Anger has two sides. One, with the negative approach and the other the positive approach.

Other approaches to anger by prominent people:

The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. ~Jacqueline Schiff

When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger. - Epictetus

If you're angry at a loved one, hug that person. And mean it. You may not want to hug - which is all the more reason to do so. It's hard to stay angry when someone shows they love you, and that's precisely what happens when we hug each other. ~Walter Anderson, The Confidence Course, 1997

Never ever hold a grudge or resent anyone for too long. It is not healthy.

For children (what do I know? ha? Im not a parent but I'm basing it on experience and... basically in the views of a "child" because I was "child" once.)

• Ask your child how he/she feels.
• If the child says she is mad or angry about something or someone, don't tell him/her it is wrong to feel angry. Just tell him/her it's ok to be angry.... but not to the point of hurting other people.
• If the child punched another child because of his/her anger maybe it is better to explain to a child that it's ok to be angry but you must never ever hurt other people in the process. Of course, in a very nice way. Kids listen. I don't think scolding works when you are trying to explain something to a child.
  
• A child listen to "sweet-nice-talks".
  

These are just my views. I know in your experience you have other "good ways" in handling anger and it might be very great to share them as well. :)

Here are some quotes about anger, rage and resentment from prominent people that might be of help and be of use to you:

Get mad, then get over it. ~Colin Powell

Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools. ~Albert Einstein

Sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. ~Author Unknown

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ~Buddha

Resentment is an extremely bitter diet, and eventually poisonous. I have no desire to make my own toxins. ~Neil Kinnock

He is a fool who cannot be angry; but he is a wise man who will not - Anonymous.

Anger is a great force. If you control it, it can be transmuted into a power which can move the whole world. - William Shenstone.

Let us not look back in anger, not forward in fear, but around awareness. - James Thurber.

Five(5) Natural Emotions - Grief

Before, everything else I would like to greet Tay Ernie a Happy Birthday! :)

Anyway, I will share to you the works of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross who teaches people about the five natural emotions.

Despite the countless emotions going around that made us feel this-way-and-that-way, there are only 5 which are natural.

I will share to you the first and then the next day would be the second and so on and so on.

Grief is a natural emotion. This is the very part of us that allows us to say goodbye whenever we don't want to say goodbye. This is a very natural response to death, separation or loss of a beloved one or a thing.

When one is allowed to express one's grief, one gets rid of it very quickly. Those children who were allowed to cry over losing a toy or being separated from a parent, or those children who were allowed to be sad whenever they feel sad they will feel very healthy about sadness when they grow up, and they usually move through sadness very quickly. They "get over" their sadness right away.

On the other hand, if as a child you were always told to "Hush! Don't cry!", "stop crying..." when you grow up you will have a hard time crying as an adult. (I've met a few people who were like this and you can basically tell whether they were allowed or not to express what they feel when they were young.) Those children who were taught not to cry over "small" things and have been told all their life not to cry will have a hard time moving through sadness. So they usually repress their grief.

If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble. ~Moliere

Suppressed grief suffocates, it rages within the breast, and is forced to multiply its strength - Ovid

Grief that is continually repressed becomes a chronic depression, a very unnatural emotion.

People have tried to kill themselves(suicide) and have killed other people because of chronic depression.

Credits/Ideas: CWG, and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross, Wikipedia

What should I do?

Tears are the language of grief - Voltaire

He that conceals his grief finds no remedy in it. - Turkish Proverb.

Never ever repress your feeling over losing someone or something. If you felt a need to cry... go cry. If you need to feel sad... be sad. If that's how you feel at the moment, you express it. You don't need to mask your feelings and hide it from anybody.

They say music therapy is good as well. You might as well try it.

I'm not a doctor or anything of the sort, but I don't believe in using "medicines" such as anti-depressants to be effective. It may be at first but in the long run it would have side-effects.

Basically, we all have to go through sadness "naturally" without the use of medicines that manipulates what you feel as of the moment.

And once, you've poured it all out.... all will be well.

Remember, grief is a natural emotion.

We all experience grief..... and we experience it naturally.... and go through it....

There's a good book about dying and grieving: Good Grief: Making Sense of Death, Dying & Funerals by Mark H. Shearon.

Here are some positive quotes I've gathered about grief....

Grief is itself a medicine. ~William Cowper, Charity

We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa

Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. ~Author Unknown

There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go. ~Author Unknown

Loss is nothing else but change, and change is Nature's delight. ~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.

Man, when he does not grieve, hardly exists. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943,

Tres

I was in Pluto's blog awhile ago and he mentioned Manny Pacquiao. I remembered a couple of things. No no no, scratch the thought I won't even mention his running for whatever-position-this-election.

I remembered Manny in my dreams. I don't know why in the world he was in my dream (maybe because yesterday my mom mentioned Manny and was asking if he is really serious about running and all that). I don't remember seeing him in my dream all I remembered was some lines that goes like this..

"Manny died..."
"What, he did? So he won't run after all?"

Stupid question. But it's a dream. I searched the net for it's meaning and here it is...

To see others dying, forebodes general ill luck to you and to your friends.

I'm not sure I saw him die... I forgot. -_- All I know was that he died there.

Next dream:
(Yes, I had a long dream. Three different dreams in one night. Another triple treat.)

All I remember was there's a mouse... a talking one that is. He was brought into a room full with books and it was placed in front of the aircon. It was left there, the mouse was an important rodent there, and we got soo busy (I don't remember who I was with) talking we forgot all about the mouse. Then we realised that we brought the mouse/rat with us and when we tried to take a look... the mouse/rat was freezing. In fact, it freezed to death.

To see lab animals in your dream, suggests that an aspect of yourself is being repressed. You feel that you are not able to fully express your desires and emotions. Alternatively, it suggests that you need to experiment with your fears, choices, and beliefs. Try not to limit yourself.

Another meaning is:

It is an unlucky dream to see domestic animals dying or in agony.

Another one:

A rat is a sign that negative influences are undermining your vitality. Dreams about rats and mice usually reflect the worries which are "gnawing" you. Seeing a rat: you will go through some unpleasant experience with other people.

Third Dream:

We were watching a movie "Annie Hall". (I did not know there was a movie like this until I searched it.) But the movie in my dream is not romantic, it's actually mortifying. It has zombies walking around while I am in the movie (yes, I'm inside the movie as well) the zombies has those stuffs you have on the hospital. I don't know what you call them. They are like from hospitals with tubes walking outside a park, street or something. It was totally freaky.

Dreaming about the living dead may carry a powerful message. If you are "walking around like a zombie," it usually means that you are emotionally disconnected from things going on around you. You may be experiencing unhealthy detachment and are unable to appropriately feel positive or negative emotions. Currently, you may be out of touch and outside of the main flow of life. This dream could positively sever you and help you to become aware of emotional issues and circumstances in daily life that are difficult to face.

Whatever it is.. I don't remember being a zombie.. it was the people around me.

Then I was in a car with my sister. She was playing with the car window attempting to open it. And I was like... "stop playing with it and don't open the window we might get infected". I was really nervous and fidgety by that time. Attempting to close the window (it's automatic so the window go up and down). Then there were soldiers beside with a big missile and they sprayed something through the window and my sister closed the window herself. I told her...

"Look, what you've done... now we are infected and I can't breathe... can you?"
"Yeah, I can.. but it's hard."

The next thing I know we were in a mall. Meeting up with Dra. Beth and the rest of my cooking class classmates. They were all there and we asked Dra. if she has some remedy. She gave us some stones and said to pound and rub it all over our skin and smell it. It felt like it was a soap and we were rubbing it. In my mind I was looking for my parents and brother for other family members, I want them to be with us. I wanted to warn them about the situation.

The whole duration of the dream I was running around the mall looking for the rest of the family members.

Whatever my dream meant it was not good. Pretty bad omen it is. I know that dreams come true when you allow them too... specially the bad ones. They just warn you about what can happen in the next few days whether you are conscious about it or not.

Basically, some of them I am really feeling specially the one about suppressed. Oh well.... We will see. I wanna change it... and I can.

The last dream... I don't know how to search for their meanings.