Five(5) Natural Emotions - Grief

Before, everything else I would like to greet Tay Ernie a Happy Birthday! :)

Anyway, I will share to you the works of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross who teaches people about the five natural emotions.

Despite the countless emotions going around that made us feel this-way-and-that-way, there are only 5 which are natural.

I will share to you the first and then the next day would be the second and so on and so on.

Grief is a natural emotion. This is the very part of us that allows us to say goodbye whenever we don't want to say goodbye. This is a very natural response to death, separation or loss of a beloved one or a thing.

When one is allowed to express one's grief, one gets rid of it very quickly. Those children who were allowed to cry over losing a toy or being separated from a parent, or those children who were allowed to be sad whenever they feel sad they will feel very healthy about sadness when they grow up, and they usually move through sadness very quickly. They "get over" their sadness right away.

On the other hand, if as a child you were always told to "Hush! Don't cry!", "stop crying..." when you grow up you will have a hard time crying as an adult. (I've met a few people who were like this and you can basically tell whether they were allowed or not to express what they feel when they were young.) Those children who were taught not to cry over "small" things and have been told all their life not to cry will have a hard time moving through sadness. So they usually repress their grief.

If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble. ~Moliere

Suppressed grief suffocates, it rages within the breast, and is forced to multiply its strength - Ovid

Grief that is continually repressed becomes a chronic depression, a very unnatural emotion.

People have tried to kill themselves(suicide) and have killed other people because of chronic depression.

Credits/Ideas: CWG, and Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross, Wikipedia

What should I do?

Tears are the language of grief - Voltaire

He that conceals his grief finds no remedy in it. - Turkish Proverb.

Never ever repress your feeling over losing someone or something. If you felt a need to cry... go cry. If you need to feel sad... be sad. If that's how you feel at the moment, you express it. You don't need to mask your feelings and hide it from anybody.

They say music therapy is good as well. You might as well try it.

I'm not a doctor or anything of the sort, but I don't believe in using "medicines" such as anti-depressants to be effective. It may be at first but in the long run it would have side-effects.

Basically, we all have to go through sadness "naturally" without the use of medicines that manipulates what you feel as of the moment.

And once, you've poured it all out.... all will be well.

Remember, grief is a natural emotion.

We all experience grief..... and we experience it naturally.... and go through it....

There's a good book about dying and grieving: Good Grief: Making Sense of Death, Dying & Funerals by Mark H. Shearon.

Here are some positive quotes I've gathered about grief....

Grief is itself a medicine. ~William Cowper, Charity

We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa

Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. ~Author Unknown

There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go. ~Author Unknown

Loss is nothing else but change, and change is Nature's delight. ~Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.

Man, when he does not grieve, hardly exists. ~Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943,