Wednesday, April 18, 2007



They say the only constant thing in this world is CHANGE. Life is all about changes. We cannot simply afford to just slack off when we are comfortable with something or a situation. We all need to GROW and in order to grow, we need to CHANGE. If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. It is inevitable.

Growth is the only evidence of life. ~John Henry Newman, Apologia pro vita sua, 1864

I've been hearing complaints about the government, in fact when was the last time people stopped complaining and started changing ? I mean yes, the government may have it's faults, and sure we have every right to complain.. but I hope for a change... those people who got nothing to do with their life would stop blaming the government and start changing for the better.

You see, part of what stops people from growing is "complaining". They see other people's faults without seeing theirs. They prefer to blame other people because they cannot afford to take responsibility for their own life.

Changes comes with responsibility. Your life would be better, if you stop complaining and blaming other people for what is happening in your life and start to accept the responsibilities that goes with "human rights". We should be aware that we are all responsible for our own actions. And whatever that is happening in our life is the result of our actions.

Q: So.. how do we effectively change our circumstances? Given that we cannot complain(oh, which is bliss!) and blame it on other people because we are supposed to be responsible for our own actions and circumstances which are the result....?

I'm not really saying that you cannot complain, I'm just pointing out that it's better to do some changing rather than complaining. Its much more productive... and it helps you grow.

starts within. So you will understand clearly why change starts from within.. I will take the example from Bob P. about the mirror images. :)

Take a look at that picture. So, you see a woman with a camera with her reflectionssss. And I mean reflectionssss.

The woman would represent you (never mind that you are a guy, imagine this time you are that woman). The images or the reflections she has has would be the "circumstances" in your life.

Now, you want to change the circumstances, because you are not happy with that result. Where do you think, (in this case the mirror image) would you try to change... "the certain mirror image" or the "woman holding the camera" ?

You see, people are so bent up in trying to change their circumstances, their home, the PEOPLE AROUND THEM, blah and blah except THEMSELVES.... and then when nothing happens they go about complaining nothing is changing.

They want to CHANGE THEIR LIFE... but they do not want to change themselves.

Things do not change, WE CHANGE.

Trying to change the circumstances would be like this "mirror image". You cannot change anything if you try to change the "reflections" of you.

Your circumstances are the reflections of WHO YOU ARE. If you want to change your reflection, do a little shifting of emotions..... listen to your spirit... listen to the voice within.

Before you complain, take a good look at yourself.... and see what needs to be changed inside of you.


It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change. ~Author unknown

It's the most unhappy people who most fear change. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966


They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. ~Confucius

but.. also BE WEARY because...

All change is not growth, as all movement is not forward. ~Ellen Glasgow

Image from: Shanner


len said...

daming words of wisdom ^_^ andami ko natutunan, i hate to admit pro kahit sabihin kong minsan nagbabago naman ako kahit papano i still blame others and ang dami ko paring complains though in the end nsakin lang pla yung solusyon sa mga reklamo ko... and about nman sa ibang tao na nagcocomplain about sa government well di ko rin maitatago yun gaya nlang nung mga nsa remote places na people sobra cla mkareklamo bout kakulangans a pagkain and gutom eh panong di sila maghihirap di rin naman cla gumagawa ng ways para kumita i mean if there's a will there's a way dba?? d nman pedeng isusubo nlang skanila.....hehe ayun... ahihi first commentor aku kakatuwa hihih
len | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 2:32 am

iskoo said...

hindi talaga maiiwasan at mapipigilan ang pagbabago, yun lang minsan kailanagn kung magbago ay for the better.
iskoo | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 3:51 am |

Mari said...

How true, Tina. Well, you covered all the bases, so nothing I could say any more. Great post.
Mari | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 3:54 am |

Jhed said...

Great post. Considering that you are in the same age as me and you came up with a thought-provoking post.

Nicely done. Now, why can't I make such posts. LOL.
Jhed | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 4:12 am |

dwin said...

things change for better ha?
dwin | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 5:05 am |

Cha said...

i just remembered the quote by Leo Tolstoy: "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."
cha | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 7:10 am |

pam said...

i love this post. and i really really agree with the thing that everything starts within the self first.

coz when you have the initiative, everything else would come along.
pam | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 8:54 am |

Jhenny said...

kahit saang yata meronn complaints because people are naturally unsatisfied with everything they had in their life.. i agree na dapat bago mag-complain try to change things first within yourself... hinde yung puro complain na lang pero wala naman ginagawa para sa pagbabago...
jhenny | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 10:31 am |

angelo said...

Wow that was really well put Tina! You are certainly wise well beyond your years. I especially like the analogy with the lady in front of the mirror. To change or fix a problem one must find the root of the problem and work on that, everything else should follow.
Angelo | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 10:39 am |

yagi said...

yup... change is permanent.. we have to deal with it.. haay.. minsan maganda ang change sakin minsan nagkakalitolito ako.. grabe..
yAgi | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 1:50 pm |

sasha said...

So right about change being the only constant thing in this world. And you're right, change comes from within. Di porke nabago mo yung nasa paligid mo magiging ok na lahat. And it will never be like that always. Dapat, ikaw muna, bago ang nasa paligid mo.

Nice post, Tina!
sasha | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 3:33 pm |

mari said...

I missed your other post about moms. Geez, you were fast, girl. Anyway, I posted a comment there. Thanks for doing the tag.

Change! Of course, we have to change...for the better, otherwise we'll rot.

Excellent always.
Mari | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 7:53 pm |

Anonymous said...

wow! nice post!

yeah right, CHANGES COMES WITH responsibility..

di rin kasi basta- basta ang pagbabago. iba-iba.. depende sa tao. depende sa sitwasyon.. yung change naman na growth, (for me) constant na yun.. plus development.. kaakibat na nga talaga ng buhay ang pagbabago.. nasa sa tao na kung paano nya i-handle...
Anonymous | 04.18.07 - 10:17 pm |

Kenneth Porio said...

Change is good...and sometimes bad...
We cannot control change.
Yes, life is a constant change...we grow.

As for me, I am really happy to be part of your reader community!

Kudos, Ate Tina!
Kenneth | Homepage | 04.18.07 - 11:05 pm |

Ghee said...

A very impressive post again,Tina.You seem so matured,and i love your way of thinking.indeed,we better do some changing rather than complaining. Your example,the lady reflectionssss was so made your point and made me nod my head.

keep up the good work,gurl!!
ghee | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 12:17 am |

Cat said...

It's easier to point your finger at someone else. For instance, we Pinoys blame it all to our govt(w/c btw, you pointed it out already)., even the fact that our govt. is not as good as the US govt, it's still we, Filipinos are responsible for the poverty thing, I mean HELLO! I believe that Filipinos are really into Mayaman-Kaagad-thingy instead of striving hard, what we do is is wait for a goodluck to happen..Let's face the fact that we have to help ourselves and our governemnt..give and take kung baga

and lastly(hehehe may pahabol pa),I hate to hear someone complaining, the one who complains everyday. Personally, it's unhealthy talaga. All those negative vibes, it's contagious at you'll feel somehow blue , i really dont like it.
cat | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 12:45 am |

Fingertalks said...

hi tina!

nice post u have there. i am agreeable with your points. change starts within...we cannot just blame others for the circumstances that have befallen us..what's left to be done is to start changing our disposition in see what's left to do for the better...lots of us, Filipinos, are complaining about the government ...yeah, but we fail to look at what we do to help ourselves.

As Maya Angelou says it, "Nothing will work unless you do." ...unless we all do ..NOW.
fingertalks | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 3:26 am |

paolomendoza said...

this post has lots of depth. thanks.
paolomendoza | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 3:51 am |

Patty said...

" It's the most unhappy people who most fear change. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

hahaha true, i can relate. haha!
thanks for commenting me, and yes i will truly appreciate that ;D
take care!
Patty | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 4:20 am |

krisha said...

The pic's kinda interesting! Tama! Fact talaga na "Change is the only constant in this world.". Haayyyy... :D Gud Aftie! :D
Krisha | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 6:05 am

mousey said...

hay yan ang hirap pakisabayan heheh.. ang bilis ng pagbabago nito. inuumpisahan mo palang pagaralan ang isa nito may bago na naman.

ok din minsan ang change kaysa stagnant gaya ng canal di ba mabaho at binabahayan ng lamok.
mousey | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 7:41 am |

Aisha said...

yeah. CHANGE. it has a big impact with my life..
Aisha | Homepage | 04.19.07 - 9:39 am |

angelo said...

Hi Tina! Ya I figured the theme was election related. I hope things will CHANGE in Philippine politics and governance. I hope more Filipinos could step back, like you've blogged about, and examine the changes that really need to be made to improve Philippine society. I could write you a book of my observations on Filipino society, both in the Philippines and here in Canada, but I'll not bore you. I just hope one day love of country will beat out love of self. It would easier if poverty did not make love of self, and self preservation a necessity. We have a rich history of Bayani who sacrificed for love of country, it's a dying breed that needs to be resurrected especially in politics and government. Good luck to us in the elections!
Angelo | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 12:39 am |

dhea said...

nce nmn ng pic. luv it. madmeng complaints kase hnd makuntento sa buhay ang mga tao. salamat sa mga natutunan q dito.
DHEA | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 7:00 am |

tin said...

"Blaming your faults on your nature does not change the nature of your faults."
-Thomas Lake Harris

nice thoughts tina.
Tin | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 7:09 am |

enoc said...

true. ang lalim hehe.
enoc | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 7:12 am |

nona said...

it's another awakening post. very true Tina gurl. me too, I'd stopped complaining na. I just welcome changes....changes....

ang cute ng layout mo summer na summer ang dating. miss you!
nona | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 7:26 am |

potpot said...

hmm.. tama ka nga siguro. nothing is constant but change... mejo nabigatan ako sa post. pero i find it very... uhmmm.. enlightening...

miss you ate tina..
potpot | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 8:02 am |

Shari said...

What we need is collective change for the better. Kahit magbago pa ang isang tao, hindi pa rin magiging madali kasi yung ibang tao naman ang magbabagsak sa kanya.

I wonder why people say that everything changes so fast, when in truth, ang bagal talaga. Or maybe I'm just taking it from the POV of someone who's political?

It's easier to point fingers than offer a helping hand. 'Nuff said.

So does this mean I can't complain about how darned hot it is?! Haha!
Shari | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 2:25 pm |

Nicole said...

nice ate tama sila dami nga words of wisdom ahihihi.. nice post... pero para sakin ang bilis nga ng panahon ahihihi.. ingat ka lagi ate.. mwah
nicole | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 6:45 pm |

Chase said...

Change is indeed the constant thing in this world. I guess without change the world would become a boring and stagnant place
chase | Homepage | 04.20.07 - 8:14 pm |

iskoo said...

tama and its a process, enjoy lang yung bawat stages ng buhay then dont afraid to grow.
iskoo | Homepage | 04.21.07 - 6:03 am |

pam said...

I love this post. I like the way you wrote this. Change does starts from within. Very true, deep and.. real.
pam | Homepage | 04.21.07 - 6:09 am |

ann said...

Nice post again Tina. Basta yung changes is for the better.

Kahit saan talaga di nawawalan ng complaints ang tao, walang satisfaction.
ann | Homepage | 04.21.07 - 9:58 am |

Frank said...

I just happened to stumble upon your blog and I have to say that this was an awesome post! Very well-put!
Frank | 04.21.07 - 1:11 pm |

Jenniffer said...

ryt..kaya lang kasi sa 100 porsyento, 60% ang mas ang gobyerno ang nagsisikap na gumawa ng paraan sa pagunlad ng bansa.. citizens are helping naman, kaya lang hanggat may kurakot.. walang asenso..
jeniffer | Homepage | 04.21.07 - 10:44 pm |

mikko said...

ang creppy nman nung girl in the black-and-white mirror image.... :|

newei, YEAH....

change is a necessity and without it, we wouldn't grow. :D
Mikko | Homepage | 04.22.07 - 1:08 am | #

ferdz said...

Nicely put there. People always looking for change outside of them. They forgot that once they change their minds or how they think. Everything will follow.
Ferdz | Homepage | 04.22.07 - 9:56 am |

L.A. said...

Nice read!! Well change indeed is constant, but never the less change should start on ourselves...lest stop complaining and do the right action!!! diba!!!! AJA! aJa!!!! i misss hereeeeeeee!!!
L.A | Homepage | 04.22.07 - 10:05 am |

Fruity Oaty said...

My father once told me that it is usually attitude... not circumstances... that is the best predictor for happiness. A simple truth yes, but I'd forgotten it lately.

Loved your entry. Good reading.
fruityoaty | Homepage | 04.22.07 - 1:13 pm |