Riding a PUJ home, i can hear the conversation of two elderly people in front of me. (I wasnt eavesdropping, they were talking right in front.. you cant help it.)
Anyhow, they were talking about someone who wanted to commit suicide because of the problems that someone encountered. And they find it shallow, because it's not actually a solution to the problem, and all that.
The guy asked the 'suicidal freak' "is that your solution?, do you think you would solve it like that? you would still lose". And the 'suicidal freak' would drone on and on about his work.. family. The guy told him "you entered that problem, you must learn how to get out of it. and that is not by trying to kill yourself. you are not the only one who has a problem. everyone has."
Yes. Everyone has problems/stresses in life, but we all have different ways of dealing with it. Some foolish others are wise.
Foolish way of dealing it, is drinking. Yes, i find it foolish. (No offense meant). If you resort to drinking, because you have a big big problem... and you wanna drown yourself with liquor/alcohol.. do you think the next day your problem would be solved? No. it won't. Come to think of it... it's actually a waste of time. (aside from the fact that it adds stress in your body/health). Same goes to smoking. Specially the "suicide" thing. Yes, everyone thinks about that whenever everything goes wrong. Not the way we wanted it to happen. And you think your dreams would go tumbling down.. yada yada. If you do them all the time.. i dont think you wont solve any problems. It adds bigger problems.
So how do you solve your problems?
By diverting your thoughts to "solutions". Divert your thoughts.. you always think about your problem... everyday.. every waking day of your life. So you get more problems. What if you focus yourself to the "solution" instead of the "problem" itself?
Face your problems.. but do not be too consumed by it. Work on it. Solve it.
Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.
We need problems/obstacles/mistakes, anything that stresses us out to Learn. Sometimes we need to learn the hard way, if we keep making that mistake over and over again. If you cannot perfect that mistake it will haunt you, until you learn.
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” - Martin Luther
But always remember.. do not forget to laugh. you need them too. Dont drown yourself with grief/sorrow... engulf yourself with laughter and joy. Even though there are problems... while trying to solve it.. laugh.. and smile. That's Life. Live it.. while it lasts.
Btw. Be Blessed Darlene.. and have a happy trip to BAGUIO! Love you =)